Don’t cheat. This is very simple to understand. Cheating on your partner is the quickest and easiest road to unbridled drama. Unless you want the rest of your relationship to be filled with bitterness, trust issues, and slowly simmering disgust, cross cheating off your to-do list.
Don’t put your needs above the needs of the relationship. Your needs are important, but are they more important than your relationship? Compromise is more than just a catch-word. If you feel that your need to play golf with your friends on Sunday is more important than meeting with the pastor to discuss your upcoming wedding ceremony, then you are putting your priorities in the wrong order. Relationships have no room for selfishness. Always consider the greater good.
Give your partner what he needs. That could mean anything from having sex more often to having dinner with your in-laws. If your partner’s needs are met, it is less likely that he will be frustrated. Less frustration equals less dramatic behavior. Everyone wins.
Be each other’s best friend. You should be able to share anything with him. If your relationship doesn’t make you feel like you’re in love with your best buddy, then you are missing something beautiful. Ask yourself if he treats his best friend better than he treats you.
Stay calm. As tempting as it may be to fight back when he yells, it will not improve the situation. Since raising your voices is not conducive to a stable and drama-free relationship, you should not participate in shouting matches. Once he has quieted down, explain rationally to him why screaming will not help him get his point across. Invite respectful communication. If that doesn’t work, you may need to ask yourself whether you want to get yelled at for the rest of your life.
