Save Your Relationship – 6 Mistakes You’re Probably Making
Mistakes to Avoid & How To Make Progress and Save Your Relationship
So you want to save your relationship but you just can’t figure out how you can get it across to your partner… Well I can practically guarantee that you.. yes you.. are making some VERY bad mistakes that we ALL make.
Why do we make them? Because it’s part of our human psychology. It’s our emotions. It’s the way we’ve grown up to act. And no there’s nothing wrong with us, but sometimes we sabotage ourselves in the things that we want more.
So how do we fix it? First, stop doing the 6 things I’m about to mention!
Mistake #1: Denying things are your fault. Denying anything usually points more fingers, and you can’t convince some people otherwise of certain things. Better yet – stop passing blame altogether. Agree to not pass blame on anything and focus on how to improve your relationship.
Mistake #2: Are you apologizing for everything? Stop! Psychology tell us that when you apologize for everything, it can actually cause a negative response. Stop taking even more responsibility than you need to. I know that you’re doing it to try and make the relationship better, but it can have a backwards reaction most of the time.
Mistake #3: Trying to convince them you’re the love of their life. Don’t do this. I really do understand, and you probably are the love of their life, and they probably KNOW THIS, but you can’t force it. When you’re in this tough situation you really want to avoid making this problem. Things will become apparent when you start making some nice progress.
Mistake #4: Begging. Don’t beg. If you beg, you probably know that you shouldn’t already. Begging means you hold no value in yourself. Who wants to continue a relationship with somebody who has no value in themselves? Stop doing this. I know that you so badly want certain things, and saving your relationship is one that’s really up there – but this isn’t helping. There are proper ways to do it. Begging may make you feel a bit better, but just stop completely. That’s no way to save your relationship.
Mistake #5: Empty promises. Usually you promise things to try and “convince” your partner to continue the relationship, or make an existing relationship better. Don’t do these. Don’t make promises that you’re going to change this time, or you’re going to stop acting this way, or start doing this. They’re empty. Promises made in defense of a threat are not real promises, and we can sense that as human beings.
