The first thing that you must do to be a great husband is be a good listener. Now I’m not saying that I am always the best at this, or that women are always the best at this, but I think overall as guys we tend to not pay as much attention to our significant others as we should. Anytime that there is an issue, whether it is big or small, it is important to zip your lips and open your ears and listen to what she has to say. If you are having a disagreement about something this is the best way to keep it from getting heated. Just listen to her thoughts and then you can respond with yours. Doing this will also give you the ability to gather your thoughts before you speak. Listening is not only a vital tool during disagreements, but in everyday conversation. When you ask about her day, make sure you listen to how her day actually was. As guys we tend to ask a question to sound supportive but really as soon as we finish asking we block out everything else. WRONG. Trust me when I say being a good listener is a key ingredient to being a great husband.
Remember that you cannot always get your way and that relationships could also be called compromises. I have been in a situation plenty of times where I had a plan of what I was going to do for a day or an evening or weekend. Then what happens, here she comes telling me she has promised we will go and have dinner and a movie with her parents or with some other friends. Its in these times we must realize that being a good husband means that we have vowed to hold our significant other above all else and that if we are willing to change plans then our significant others will also do the same some other time down the road. This is a kind of compromise and remembering that compromise is a another key ingredient to being a great husband will go far.
Now this step deals with doing things just because. Normally guys tend to really step it up during the dating period and then we tapper off a little and by the time we get married flowers are a birthday and valentines day gift only. Doing something like buying flowers or writing a sweet note or bringing lunch or any number of things just because is something we as husbands should all strive to do. This shows that you love and care for your significant other and that even after 5,10 or even 50 years you are still unpredictable and surprising and love to do something big or small to show just how much you care.
When she doesn’t want to give it to you, don’t get angry. As man and wife having an intimate relationship is a very sacred thing. Guys tend to be thinking about sex all the time and so its normal for us to try and go for it all the time. Don’t always push this subject with your significant other because I think you’ll find that if you just let it happen naturally or spontaneously it will not be an issue. Sometimes when she is ready its a good idea to act like your not even if you are because this will only make her want you more. Remember that this is really a very special and intimate act that you have between each other and by knowing and understanding that and looking at it in that perspective will help you be a better husband.
Be supportive. Show an interest in the things she is interested in and be there when things just aren’t going right. Guys tend to brush things off much easier then women and that is what makes it hard for us to seem supportive. Remember that being supportive shows that you care and that is just another step towards being a great husband.
Help around the house. I think most women don’t mind taking on the task of keeping the home looking nice and tidy, but I know that helping out is another great thing to do to be a great husband. Help with vacuuming, windows, laundry, the yard and anything else you possibly can.
