Take a good look at your motivations. What exactly is it that you want from your man? Is it reasonable? Is it fair? Is it moral? Consider these questions. Ask yourself if what you want is within his means or comfort zone. If you are kind and compassionate toward your man, he will be more likely to give you want you want and need. That being said, there are things you are entitled to as a girlfriend or wife. Time, attention, affection, sex, fidelity, flowers, jewelry, the occasional vacation are things that are well within your rights as a woman! Remember, a man’s natural instinct is to give his woman anything she wants, so if he’s not giving you what you want you can bet something is not right.
First, accept him exactly as he is right now with no changes. This seems a bit counter intuitive doesn’t it? It isn’t. This is the most crucial step in this entire process. If you don’t fully and totally accept your man, he’s not likely going to do anything for you. That means no nagging, no criticizing, no sarcastic remarks, no angry looks, and no subtle hints. Nada. What is that we women have the hardest time accepting? Usually their friends, family, eating habits, sense of style (or lack thereof), how they spend their time, sports addiction–the list goes on and on. Say NOTHING about any of these things. If anything, compliment something about him that you would normally flip about. For example say, “It was really nice to see your mother this afternoon. She looked great.” rather than “I just cannot stand your mother. She has no manners.” See the difference?
Appreciate him for the things he does for you already. Don’t overlook this as it is really very important. Did he take out the trash for you last night? Did he feed the dog this morning? Did he take you out to a film last week? You may think he’s obligated to do these things. Think again! A lot of men don’t. So, praise him enthusiastically for every little thing he does for you. Lay it on thick.
Make him feel good about himself. Again, lay it on thick. Notice the wonderful qualities he has and do not feel shy to express them to him. Does he work out frequently? Compliment his sexy muscles. Is he a genius in the field of military history? Compliment him on his brilliance. Compliment him for things that are generally considered masculine, such as the above examples. Avoid saying generic things like “You’re so cute” or “You’re fun.” Be specific.
Finally, after living the first four steps for quite some time (at least a few weeks and NOT before then), here is how to ask for something: Speak in a low, gentle voice (men can’t stand the sound of a high-pitched, harping woman) and ask in the most girlish, coquettish tone you can muster for exactly what you want. Do not justify what it is you want e.g. “I want that new dress because I haven’t bought a new dress in over six months.” Do not try to reason with him e.g. “I want that new dress because I’ve been really good about keeping to our budget for the past month, so it’s only fair.” No! Just ask with a smile and say “Please.” Say: “Honey, can I please have a new necklace?” Or, “Sweetheart, can we please only go over to your parent’s house once a month from now on?” It always helps if you can say this while sitting on his lap, with your arms wrapped around him.
When you get what you want (which you will), be enthusiastic. Thank him profusely and don’t be afraid to even show a little childish enthusiasm, like giggling and clapping. Remember, more than anything else, men love to see the woman they love happy, and after you start treating him the way he wants to be treated, he will lay the moon and the stars at your feet. No questions asked.
Finally, (and this is important), your man might not be used to your charming way of behaving and asking for things. If he tries to get you to enumerate on why you want what you want “Why do you need that new dress?” or “Why don’t you want to spend every Sunday with my parents?” DO NOT FALL FOR IT. Don’t argue with him. Just say “I’d just like it very much”, very sweetly and demurely. Men can’t argue with your feelings or wants, but they can very easily argue with your logic.
