Truly love your partner. If great sex is what you want, then it is necessary to love the person you are with. Great sex can only happen when two people love and trust each other.
Communicate open and freely with your partner. Let your partner know what you want and need. Let your partner know what you like and don’t like. Communication is a two-way street. Make sure your partner is able to share these things with you as well.
Know your body and the body of your partner. Explore with each other and alone. Learn what you like and don’t like. Let your partner share what they like and don’t like.
Have an open mind. Don’t be afraid to try something new with the person you love with all your heart and trust. Say no and hear no. It is your body and you do not have to do anything that you do not want to do. This applies to your partner as well. Experimenting can be wonderful, but only if both of you are participating because of the mutual love you share.
Respect your partner and make sure your partner respects you. Never push or be pushed into doing anything that is not something that you both want. Fear, guilt and anxiety are not feelings that produce great sex.
Keep it between the two of you. There is no reason to include others in this sacred act. It may sound exciting, but it only invites trouble and problems. The love that you and your partner share is enough and no one else needs to be a part of this intimacy that only the two of you should share.
