Communication! It’s one of the most popular quotes, “Communication is key!” And it truly is when it comes to relationships, or any kind of relation in general. Partners in relationships need to always talk, and they both need to know that either of them can go to the other and talk about absolutely anything!
Nothing is too embarrassing or dumb when talking to your partner about something. It’s always good to talk about your day and vent out to each other about your long hard day at school and/or work. Doing this allows the both of you to know exactly what the other’s been doing all day and how they feel about certain people or situations.
Always be honest! “Honesty is the best policy!” Being honest with one another is just as important as communication with one another. Even the little white lies will eventually come back and bite you in the butt! Some people are really good at sensing lies, and being lied to is a horrible feeling, especially by someone you love! So keep it real!
Be as brutal as possible if you wish! If you farted, have to pee, growly stomach, or just plain bitchy, tell them! This makes the comfort zone between the two of you bigger and better!
Be random! Randomness is the most fun! Being completely random sometimes is just all sorts of fun just on its own. Give a random kiss when standing or sitting next to each other. Or say something cute and romantic when watching a movie or having dinner. Or be cute and draw smiley faces or words with your finger on their back, or wherever.
Set up some rules. Everyone has rules for themselves and others. This doesn’t necessarily mean mom’s rules growing up, but simple things like how you like your things in the bathroom, or food in the fridge, or where your clothes go in the closet. Even things like when you normally go grocery shopping, take out the trash or do laundry.
Speak your mind. Don’t be afraid! Saying what you really want to say sometimes is scary, of course. But sometimes it needs to be said. This can go both ways as being saying something good or bad, funny or mean. Just like being honest, you also should speak your mind.
If they suggest something for dinner that you really don’t feel like having, then say so! Or say no to a movie that you don’t really want to see. Or even be random and say something that has nothing to do with the situation your in and completely out of the ordinary!
Be active. This can be a set “Date Night” every week, or other week. Going out and doing different things on weekend or days off. Pretty much doing anything that doesn’t involve just staying home and doing nothing!
Try new things out, things that neither of you have tried. Do something daring, or fear conquering.
Tolerate and accept each other. Neither of you are by far perfect, and the both of you agree! Everyone has flaws, so there isn’t going to be anyone in the world that doesn’t have a single flaw to them! You might not see this in the beginning of a relationship, but soon enough you’ll notice certain things about each other that may or may not bother you.
Sometimes you might say or do something that’ll bother the other, and if it’s something that’s being repeated, at least talk about it and figure things out. But for the most part, both of you have little things that you’ll need to tolerate and accept so you don’t get on each other’s nerves!
Argue! Don’t fight, argue. Disagreeing and arguing with your partner is healthy. However, don’t mix up an argument with a “fight”. An argument is simply disagreeing about something and the both of you are debating it out. Fighting is the whole yelling and walking out jig.
You don’t want to be in a miserable relationship being a “Yes” boyfriend/girlfriend. You’ll never be happy this way. Of course we all want to make our partners happy, and so do they. So always agreeing to something you don’t really want to agree to isn’t going to help.
If you’re just not feeling it, end it! Some people drag on a hopeless relationship. Some people do this just to see if you really can see themselves being with this person. And some people do it because they just don’t know how to end it, or are too afraid to do so.
So make things easier for the both of you; if you know early on that you don’t really want to be with them, just tell them know you feel. The truth might hurt, but it’ll be the best for the both of you.
