How To Understand What Men Want In Relationships

Don’t coddle and smother them. Guys don’t want to be smothered, they need their breathing room. Smothering can be calling them too much, or always showing up unannounced. They want to spend time with you, but they don’t want to be smothered with it. Let them miss you and reflect on the time spent. They need a little space, and sometimes a bit of guy time. Women don’t always understand this, and it doesn’t mean they’re sick of being around you. It’s just how men are. There are things men do, and things women do. Sometimes they need some man time.

Avoid drama. If you ask any guy, this is the number one turn off when it comes with women. They want to avoid drama with all costs. Don’t become the kind of person who constantly causes problems, arguments, and act overly sensitive easily. When they do something you don’t like, discuss things rationally with them. Also don’t be too harsh and expect too much from them. Don’t put ridiculous expectations on them, because guys hate that. Have a loose and relaxing attitude with them. They like laid back, not a woman who fills their life with tension.

Pay attention to them and make them feel confident. Men can definitely suffer from being insecure, something women don’t always realize. Women may seem more insecure, but I wouldn’t say that they are. Women get insecure physically, where guys get insecure mentally. So understand a guys mindset and don’t bring them down. Bring confidence into them, and make them feel confident. Also don’t shut them out, because guys do need that companionship as well. They need someone they can open up with.

Be cool. Seems pretty simple, but guys like cool. Guys like a woman they can brag about, saying she likes this, and that. When I say cool, don’t turn into their mom. They have a mom, they don’t need two. Don’t be over sensitive, critical, or emotional with them. Don’t treat them like they’re a baby. Never, ever talk down to them either, especially around people. Be funny around them, and be who you are. Be relaxing around them, you’ll push the right buttons with them. This doesn’t mean you can’t express yourself, and your thoughts to them. You just don’t have be intense about it. Guys don’t do well with dramatic scenes. Less drama, the more you’ll get out of them.

Don’t tell them everything they want to hear. Guys can be a bit insecure, but they can quickly grow an ego as well. Don’t always tell them the things they want to hear, especially if they’re feeling a little too good about themselves. I think women need to help balance a guys mindset. When they’re a bit too down, they can say the right things to help boost them back up. Nothing is better than receiving a compliment from a girl you’re into. However, if they’re getting a bit too full of themselves, you need to back off a little bit. Humble them. Keep them balanced, and don’t let them feel they can take you for granted. You can’t allow a guy to walk over you, as well. You have to set your own boundaries as well.