Men are not very open with their thoughts, emotions and feelings towards us. It is like pulling teeth to get them to open up about how they feel towards us. In the early stages of your relationship you may not be completely sure when he truly loves you even if he has told you. Like the old saying goes, a person’s actions speak louder than their words. This is especially true for men. They usually are not big talkers and definitely not as open about their emotions. If he is truly into you then he will not be able to hide it even if he cannot verbalize it. Check out the following actions a man would do when he is falling in love with you.
1. He chooses your company over his friends
The bond between a man and his boys is sacred to him just as your bond with your BFF is important to you. So if he chooses to spend time with you over them consistently then this says something. He enjoys your company and has fun with you.
2. He goes out of his way for you.
When a man is willing to completely go out of his way for you and not receive anything in return except your appreciation, this is a milestone. Truthfully speaking, some men are not wired to be selfless like women are. So if he puts you first before his own needs then this means that he is into you. You will know from the situation if he is bending over backwards to keep you happy or make you comfortable.
3. He wants to be around you even when you do not want to be bothered.
You know he is into you when he pops up at your house unexpected because he was in the neighborhood, or was thinking of you, or to bring you lunch, or whatever other excuse he can think of to see you. You smile graciously because you know he is being sweet but in your mind you are thinking that you really wish he would have just called you instead and how you would rather be laying down watching some crappy VH1 show before you have to go to work tomorrow. This is what happens when they fall in love. They want to be around you even when you would much rather be alone. My advice is to take it in with appreciation. Sometimes men work in extremes. Either they are really into you or you can barely get them to return your call. Like the old saying goes, if a man wants you, then you won’t be able to keep him away. He will find you.
4. He listens when you talk.
Most guys do not care about your drama with your female co-workers or how so-and-so was talking crap about you. If he actually is listening then it is not because he necessarily cares about the situation, it is because he cares that that the situation is upsetting you.
5. He does what you ask him.
If you can get a man to do what you ask of him, you got him. Now I am not talking about the chicks who are manipulating guys for rent money. That’s another topic. I am talking about when you ask him to do things for you that he wouldn’t regularly do. Some chicks have it twisted. Sure it is always nice to receive gifts and or money from your man. However, a man giving of himself can mean more than him opening up his wallet to you. Some men do not mind giving up money. They consider it a part of the “game.” This is why him opening his wallet is much easier than him giving time, love, concern, care and emotion to someone.
6. He can’t keep his hands off you and not in a sexual way.
When your guy is finding any excuse to touch you, hug you, kiss you and these touches are not always sexual then he is into you. Affection for men is not like how it is for women. We enjoy affection and it does not always have to lead to sex. For men, affection usually is the jumping point for penetration. If he is initiating affection and not constantly attempting to lead it into sex, then that says something about his feelings towards you.