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1. He talks about his ex frequently. It’s fine to bring up the ex once in a while under very neutral contexts, e.g., “My ex has the kids this week.” But talking incessantly about prior relationships is tacky and might also imply that there are still some unresolved issues lingering in his head, whether it’s rage, resentment or doubt. This rule applies to you too. Do not mention your previous love life and its contents, including: pet names, restraining orders or penis size.
3. He wants to get into a relationship immediately. Refusing to commit to you is not a good thing, but neither is moving into a relationship at lightning speed. Relax, you aren’t Benjamin Button– you don’t have five minutes to fall in love and have babies. If your man tells you he loves you or wants to commit to you during or shortly after the first date, something is up. (Unless of course, you do too, and it’s love at first sight for both of you.)
4. He still hasn’t asked you out. This should be a given, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard people texting or g-chatting for months and months before any attempt at physical contact is made. If you’re seeking mild flirtation or a virtual relationship, texting is fine-but if you want something more, then he needs to make a move in real life. If you’re at a point where you don’t want to wait anymore, stop waiting. You shouldn’t have to force someone to ask you out.
5. He doesn’t let you go near his phone. This is also a given, in my opinion. But I have firsthand witnessed relationships in which phones are private property, locked and guarded with military-like defense systems. If your partner has issues about letting you see his phone, then chances are, he’s hiding something sketchy. The mere fact that he turns all Charlie Sheen on you the moment you go near it should be a big clue. I’m not saying that couples need to share passwords or answer each other’s phones, but you shouldn’t ever feel like he’s keeping something important from you either. If you feel weird about something, tell him. Maybe he’s got a great excuse, like he’s in the CIA or running from the mob. It’s way better than finding those naked pictures of his ex later on.
Chemistry isn’t instant– sometimes, it can be discovered gradually, like in thesesituations. But, after a certain point, you will know if that spark is missing. And if that’s the case, be gentle and kind. After all, wouldn’t you want to be let down just as easy if someone just wasn’t that into you?
Source PsychologyToday.com
