Give him time. If the thought of giving his heart away makes your guy nervous, the worst thing you can do is rush him. Even though your longing to be close to him may leave you wanting to push your relationship forward full-speed, trying to force him to commit too quickly could push him to run from the relationship without looking back. Though you can’t give your guy forever to get over his nervousness, let him push the relationship forward at his own speed and see whether this speed is one that you can handle.
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Make your affections known. As Mark D. White, Ph.D., reports for “Psychology Today,” many men who are scared of love feel this fear because they worry that their love won’t be returned. If you care for your man, tell him this, taking away his fear that you won’t feel for him what he feels for you.
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Admit your fear. If you are as scared of falling deeply and irrevocably in love as your man is, tell him. If you admit that love makes you more than a bit nervous as well, you may be able to show him that the emotions he feels are not his alone. Instead, you are going through the experience together, strengthening your bond.
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Be sensitive to your man’s fears. You must remain supportive and at least attempt to understand where he is coming from instead of telling him that he is being silly. If you are dismissive of your guy’s concerns, he may have more trouble overcoming his nervousness as he will not feel that he has an ally in dealing with this relationship-related trepidation.
