First of all, have to tried to talk to her about WHY she wants to end your relationship? Men and women see things differently, so what she thinks is a big problem, you may not think it is a problem at all. Ask her what is wrong. Ask her what she wants out of this relationship, and what she thinks can be done to save it. Just by asking her, you have shown her that you really care, and that you want to make things better.
If the two of you haven’t been spending time together like you used to, then start doing so. Even if you have to pencil it in to your schedule, then do it. Relationships don’t work unless the two of you spend time together. Even if you’re just watching tv together, you are with each other. Couples need time alone. Whether it be just a few minutes a day, or an hour or two. The length of time doesn’t matter. What matters is that both of you need to be able to set all of your worries and stresses aside, even for a few minutes, and relax with each other.
Does she feel overwhelmed? Sometimes alot of pressure is put on one partner. If she feels like she is the one who has done everything to keep the relationship going, then do something to help her. Offer her help when she is doing something, like household chores, errands, or whatever you can think of. Even if she says she doesn’t need it, she knows that you appreciate her, and what she does. Just this small sign of appreciation will go a LONG way to keeping her with you.
For no reason at all, give her a flower, or write her a little note – just to say ‘I Love You’. This spontaneous act will catch her off guard, and will show her that you really do still love her, and that you want to save your relationship with her.
