Dr. Blake, how do I deal with the anger of my husband having an affair over a year-and-half ago? I’ve forgiven him but I can’t stand for him to touch me.
You need to get in therapy and work through the feelings. Anger is holding you back from moving on with your life. You are trapped in your own anger. And you need help with that if you really want this relationship.
How can I get in touch with Dr. Sherry? Does she do online or phone counseling or is it just one-on-one?
Dr. Sherry is available for one-on-one and limited online therapy (depending on the issue) but her Atlanta office number is 770-996-7622.
Do you know of any good relationship specialist that lives in the Midwest that you can recommend?
Contact me at my office for more information – 770-996-7622.
Any advice on how to proceed? I’ve been having problems with my partner, that are serious to the point of separation. How can we work out our issues when one party is completely unwilling to cooperate in even attempting resolution?
You need a third party involved. You will not be able to solve it between the two of you because you are in the middle of it. Third party will allow both sides to be heard.
I would like info on which way should I go knowing someone is being abused and won’t leave but no one will step in to stop abuse.
If it’s a child, you need to step in to report it. You may cannot stop it, but the officials need to be informed. If it’s an adult that is disabled, again you need to report it. If it’s an adult that is a willing participant, you can only suggest, but cannot make them do anything. Abuse is tough when people love one another.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over three years and he still won’t introduce me to his 10-year-old daughter. I’m trying to be respectful. Is this normal? How hard should I push to meet her?
After 3 years he hasn’t introduced you, something is wrong. Don’t push, but ask yourself what is this really about.
My brother recently divorced and he has broken ties with his siblings because we still have a relationship with his former wife. He wants us to embrace his girlfriend, who was instrumental in breaking up the marriage. We miss him, but we are very close to the former wife and would not like to change that. Help!
Understand that is your brother, his choices are his choices and you must be respectful of that. Stay out of his business but understand that you are risking your relationship with your brother.
Last year my husband found out about a friendship that I had with a guy for over 10 years. All it was was a friendship. I accepted the responsibility of my bad behavior and I went to counseling because I realize I had issues. I asked him to go with me. First he said yes, then as I started going and talking and changing my habits in the responses, he started picking at it and saying it wasn’t working.
So I stopped going. Now, a year later, he is starting to bring up what happened. We’ve been together for 20 years, been married for 10. He’s had his share of issues including drug use, adultery and losing jobs. I’ve always had a male friend. I felt I needed to have someone to talk to when he wasn’t willing to talk or to listen. How should I handle this? Should we stay together or should we move on?
She has to be honest with herself. Her husband’s feelings and concerns are valid and she must respect that. Go to therapy and try to work through your own issues. You must work through things yourself. Can you live with your husband not trusting you? Or are you ready to move on?
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