There are a few very obvious signs:
1. You have no doubt the other person loves you and he/she does not doubt your love for him/her. I am not talking about liking or fondness, I am talking here about “love” where you know everything about the other person and he or she knows everything about you, and you love the good, bad and ugly.
2. It’s been a year or more and many break-ups in between, and BOTH of you are still “trying to make it work”. You BOTH feel like giving up, but something “more powerful than both of you” just won’t let you give up.
3. Both of you recognize that there is a “problem”, have talked about it openly and freely, and each has taken responsibility for their part in the relationship not working out; and each time you get back together, you both sincerely and genuinely try to “make it work this time” but a few weeks/months later, you’re broken up again.
4. The relationship ends with no “harsh words” but with something like: “You know I love you”; or “You’re the best thing that ever happened to me, but things just can’t work out”; or “I want you to be happy and this is what is best”; or “I want what is best for you”; etc.
5. Even when you are broken up, it still feels like you’re “dating”– you text or call each other regularly; have great conversations; talk about the break-up with no bad feelings; and even go out as “friends” and really have a great time. In other words, your relationship is best when you’re broken up.
6. Both of you have tried “dating other people” but it’s just “not the same”. The new man/woman is great, treats you right and all, but you don’t feel the same way you feel for your ex.
7. Every time you get back together, the relationship is “better than the last time” and both of you recognize and acknowledge the “change” but deep inside you both know it’s still not enough to keep you together.
8. You’re reading this list and it’s like this article was written just for you. Every single “sign” above is exactly what is happening in your relationship. You’ve known you were “meant to be together” but this seems like a confirmation.
