The Y chromosome sometimes can drive you up the wall. It can be so crazy trying to understand men and decoding their behavior. Here are a few things that you can keep in mind if you really want to understand men.
Be direct
Women feel that if they talk in loops and hint at what they want then men will get the drift and act accordingly. But the reality is that men are programmed to take things as they are said. So don’t expect him to react or do anything if you don’t spell it out to him.
Don’t look to him if all you want is attention
Men basically are problem solvers. If you don’t really have a problem and just want someone to listen while you vent then going to your man is not the ideal thing to do. Instead look at your girlfriends for such relief.
Shopping is not a sport
Making your man tag along to all your shopping expeditions saying that it is going to be fun is not the ideal thing to do. Shopping might be a sport for you. Unfortunately for him it’s a big pain.
Keep the arguments to the present
When you are having a fight or are arguing over something, then don’t bring up past differences or fights. All men tend to suffer from short term memory loss and consider bringing up such past events as hitting below the belt.
Take him at face value
If he says something then take it at face value. Looking for hidden meanings in what he says is a futile experience. Men almost always say what they mean except when you ask them if something you are wearing is making you look fat. If you cant stomach the truth then don’t ask them.
Don’t try to change him
When you fell for him you fell for all his imperfections. If he had to be perfect then he would be a woman! Don’t keep on telling him all the things that he is doing wrong as that will threaten his masculinity. Change is definitely not acceptable to men especially if the change has to be in them.
Let him be his problem solver
If you feel that your man is having some sort of a problem, don’t probe on and on till he caves and tells you what’s going on. Men necessarily don’t want to discuss all their problems so let him be. Just let him know that you are there for him whenever he needs you and that should be enough.
