There is a heavy debate on if love at first sight is real. Some claim that the heavens open up and you just know when you have met your soul mate. But is there any truth about it, or is it a fairytale shared with generations of people to have them believe there is something out there for all of us, only to give us a false sense of hope.
Romantics it is time to break your hearts. There is no such thing as love at first sight. Rather there is infatuation at first site. Your body reacts to the pheromones released by another person, and they create a mental excitement in your mind. But this infatuation does not really link to love. You can find yourself very interested in someone, but love is a process that takes times.
When you are a young child, you predetermine the type of person you are attracted to. You will find yourself leaning more towards a certain hair color or eye shade that appeals the most to you. Over your life these preferences will push you toward another person that may or may not be the best thing for you. When you meet someone who has all the physical attributes you are looking for you predetermine that love must be there.
If love at first sight were real, there would not be direct physical characteristics that would lead us to a specific type of person. In the case of love at first sight, a person with blue eyes stands the same chance as someone with brown eyes. While you can argue that these preferences will lead you directly to the person of your dreams, ask old married couples if their spouse was exactly how they dreamed they would look. A majority of the time the couples that have been together for a long time, met someone different than their ideal, and love grew over time.
But infatuation can turn into love, if there are other factors in play. If you both have similar interests, and desires for the future, there is a chance that the infatuation can turn into love. Allow the process to develop naturally and avoid saying the words before they are real. This can help you avoid hurt or confused feelings down the road.
