Intimacy is often a difficult thing to discuss with your partner. However, in order to truly understand one another’s needs, it is necessary to discuss intimate topics with one another. Some intimate questions to ask your partner are as follows:
Question 1: How important is foreplay to you? For some persons, without foreplay, the sexual act itself loses a lot of its appeal. Find out how important foreplay is to your partner and how much foreplay they expect in order to get excited about the actual sexual act.
Question 2: How do you like to be touched? Where do you like to be touched? How often do you like to be touched? How hard? How soft? Before sex or during or both? This will give you a good idea as to what pleases and excites your partner before and during sex.
Question 3: What are your fantasies? Would you like to act out one of these fantasies with me or are your fantasies something you could never actually perform? What can I do to help fulfill your fantasies? Be open and non-judgmental about this. If you, at any time, make your partner feel like they should be ashamed of their fantasies, then you have destroyed all chances for future communication about such.
Question 4: Is there any place different that you would like to have sex? Quite often we get in to the habit of having sex at the same time in the same place due to our hectic lives. Perhaps your partner would like to have sex on the kitchen counter instead of the bed or maybe they find a spot in which you could “almost be discovered” exciting. Try something different with your partner and watch how it revs up you sex life.
