Hey this is the Loverman Jerry Wade-Ladies do not talk about your ex.
Yourself – It’s pretty common advice not to monopolize a conversation with talk of yourself. You want to find out more about the other person, so be sure to ask them some questions. If you’re asked specifically to talk about yourself, don’t change the subject. Give a good answer and then ask either the same question, or a different question back to them. This is a good way to keep the dialog flowing and makes it look like you are interested in them.
Politics – Typically you don’t want to talk politics in most social situations, but you want to be extra careful when you’re on a first date. If you happen to stumble across the subject, and you find out that you have a lot of political viewpoints in common, then by all means use this as a vehicle to keep the conversation going. However, if you dance towards politics and get any remote sign that you have differing viewpoints you’ll want to save political arguments for future dates.
Religion – Pretty much the same advice as talking about politics. This is not first date conversation fodder. Unless you both agree entirely about the same religion, and this is known before you go on your first date, you should not dive heavily into matters of religion. What good can come of it? What will most likely happen is that you will have differing views on religion and it could throw a kink into getting to know each other. Go on a few more dates and have a more meaningful conversation about it, rather than put pressure on the first date with such talk.
Depressing Things – This is your chance to make a first impression so if you keep the conversation on dark, morbid, or otherwise depressing things, the other person is going to associate you to those topics. You want to be upbeat and cheery, but also down to earth at the same time. If you’re with someone that is usually cheerful, they’ll appreciate your upbeat world view. If you with a downer, they’ll only get more down and miserable. The best bet is to be positive and talk about happier things.
The Future – You shouldn’t project yourself too far into the future when you’re on a first date. If you start talking about where you want to be and what you want to do five years into the future or more, you might be pushing that person away from you if their future plans don’t mesh with yours. On a first date you want to leave the possibility open that you would bend your future plans to include that other person. You want to show yourself as a person open to letting someone share in your future.
