Realize that relationship is MORE THAN just sex! Also you cannot keep the guy for too long if all you do together is having sex and nothing else, no common interests, no spending time together etc. A guy who wants to have sex with you but not to take you out to dinner and a movie is not looking to have a relationship with you or even may be afraid to be seen with you in public because he is involved with someone else!!!
If he is serious about having a relationship with you, he will get the time to know you better and he will be ok with waiting to have sex with you for a while. Spending time together is important to get to know the other person and to see what they like and if you’re compatible. So if he is willing to wait at least a month but he still wants to see you and spend time with you, he is definitely into you!
If the guy gets up and leaves right after you had sex, giving you some lame excuse, this means he only wanted the sex and does not want nothing to do with you. That’s why he gets up and leaves right away because he does not want to develop feelings and does not want to get attached to you.
Scientific research shows that after sex, the body produces a hormone oxytocin which makes you more attached to the person you just had sex with. Unfortunately, for women the period is longer- about 2 weeks after having sex that hormone can still keep you attached to the guy. And for guys- it’s a shorter period of only 48 hours or so…So, you see, after sex you will be more attached to the guy than the guy will be attached to you. So make sure that he is the right guy in advance, before you start having sex with him.
If the guy disrespects you, comments about other women how hot she is and so on, then he obviously is not interested in a relationship with you or he may be not concerned about your feelings. You don’t want to be with an inconsiderate guy.
Sometimes, it’s hard to tell whether the guy wants a relationship or he is just faking it. He may be dining and wining you, do everything right, buy you flowers, tell you nice things that you like to hear, he may be romantic, he can buy you gifts and he seems to be serious about a relationship with you but when things get really serious- he bails out and runs. For example, you find out that you’re pregnant and he says that you must make an abortion- it is now obvious that even though he acted right and treated you right, his true intentions were just to get in your pants and nothing more. If he tells you to have an abortion, means he does not want to be with you and he does not want to have a relationship with you. I definitely recommend breaking up with him right away and get rid of his sperm as well.
So, you see, it’s sometimes difficult to tell if a guy is really genuine about having a relationship with you or he is just faking it in order to keep getting sex from you. And all the talk about relationship and how he wants you to be his girlfriend and to be serious maybe nothing more than just air coming out of his mouth.
Guys will tell you whatever you want to hear in order to get in your pants but that doesn’t mean that it’s true or that they will actually do it. For example, if you’re dating a married man he may tell you how unhappy he is in his marriage and how he is going to leave his wife to be with you but in the end it’s all just talk and in reality he is NOT going to leave his wife and kids. Or, a guy may tell you how he wants to get serious with you and have a relationship with you and he wants you to be his girlfriend exclusively and then he leaves after sex and doesn’t call you in a week because he met somebody else at a barbecue the next day!
So do not believe what he tells you but pay attention to how he acts and what he does! Because the way he acts will show you his intentions- if he has the option to stay in bed with you but he gets up and leaves, it was just sex and nothing more. Do not invest any feelings in him and do not hope for a relationship with somebody like that! The next time he calls you, know that it’s just a booty call! If you’re ok with being just a booty call, then that’s up to you to decide.