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By Steve Ubah

Brains — Men are attracted to women who are smart. When you can hold an intelligent conversation with any man on a lot of subject matters a lot of men will find your conversations engaging. And certainly, when you consider that fact that most of us want to settle down with women who can contribute financially to the relationship, then the smarter women who make more money will be the women we want in our lives. And I am not saying that if you don’t have a job they no man will want you — that is not what I am saying. You have to simply demonstrate that you are always working on taking care of your financial obligations when they arise.

Affectionate — This trait encompasses both how you touch us and the endearing words you use when you talk to us. So if you are not in the habit of touching your man or telling him how special he is, then it is possible that you may not be getting all the love your man can give you. The key to getting what you want from men is to first give of yourself (not sex) before expecting men to give their love to you.

Health conscious — You do not have to be Ms. Universe in order for men to find you attractive. But you do have to care about your physical appearance. You can’t let yourself go and expect us to fall all over you. All you have to do is show that you care about your body by taking care of it, and showing the man you want that you take care of yourself. And you can show that by simply doing your basic beauty regimen — hair, makeup, nails, exercise, etc. That’s all you have to do.

Good lover — Yes, I saved the best for last. If you are good in bed, which means you really know how to please your man, then you can practically get him to jump over hot coals to get you whatever you want. Sure, you just can’t expect him to do everything you want just because you are good in bed. If all the other traits are in place and you also add this as the icing on the cake, then you have all the ingredients you need to get any man to eat off the palm of your hands.

Great Sense of humor — Sure we want women who are not too serious about life. If you don’t know how to laugh at our jokes and the little silly things that happen in life, you will not be able to keep any man for too long.

Down-to-earth personality — Men are drawn to women who do not put on airs — women who are not afraid to be themselves. If you are a pretender men will most likely sniff out the real you eventually.

Confident — Just as women love men who are confident, men equally are attracted to confident, self-assured women. Sure from time to time it might be cute for a woman to be shy, but not so shy that she cannot stand up to let people know what she thinks.

The kind of woman we find most attractive is the woman who is well rounded. If you are Ms. Universe and you have no brains, a good sense of humor, no sense of humor, etc, you will not be able to hold onto any man that comes you way. So, now you see that outer beauty is good to have, but your inner beauty is what will keep your man from leaving you.