Always carry yourself with confidence. Hold your head high and never criticize yourself in front of a man and/or downplay your talents. For example if you’ve invited him to a party that you’re hosting, don’t criticize your own cooking or the place you call home. Don’t constantly talk about the improvements you think you need to make. Instead talk about the things that make you happy, the things about you and your life you wouldn’t change for the world. Do not apologize for who you are to anyone. Be confident, and happy and he will naturally be drawn to you.
Never dumb down for any man. If he can’t handle your brilliance, your higher paying job etc. move on immediately.
Take care of your body. Looks are important. There is just no way around that. A man has to be attracted to you physically before he falls in love with you or is at least willing to spend some time with you. If you are not looking your best, or think you need to lose those pesky ten pounds start working out and eating healthy
. Do not however announce this to him, you don’t want to make it seem like you think you aren’t good enough for him, instead do it quietly albeit with determination; like a lady. Taking care of your body will do wonders for your confidence, next thing you know you may have more suitors than you’ll know what to do with.
Be financially independent. A man will know instantly whether or not you see him as a meal ticket and will drop you like a bad habit. If he’s smart, he’ll dump you right after he has gotten into your pants.
Do not talk about commitment on the first date, unless you don’t want to have a second date with him. Commitment is something that arises naturally, once two people really get to know each other and are able to recognize how they compliment each other’s lives. This process can not be hastened through endless “where is this relationship going” conversations. Meaning you can’t verbally convince him that he should commit to you. What you can and should do is show him who you are and hope that you two are compatible. If time shows that you aren’t compatible, you’re actually much better off. Imagine the tears and money you’ll save by not going through divorce in the future. Avoid the commitment talk like you would an STD. Never bring it up first. A man who loves you will commit to you. It will not be necessary for you to convince him that he should commit to you, he will figure that out on his own. If he doesn’t, it’s his loss and you should move on.
Keep your dates light hearted and fun. Being with you should seem like a getaway. Like a fabulous vacation. He should never dread spending time with you regardless of what you’re doing together; be it just spending an evening at home or going out. Don’t be clingy and concentrate on yourself, your job, hobbies, friends and family. Always operate from the premise that you are a catch because you are, and there is no one else like you out there.
Keep yourself educated and well informed. Read and keep up with events in the world. If all you can talk to him about is Sex and the City or American Idol you need to expand your horizons. Think about it this way; the country we live in is fighting two wars at the moment, a recession, we are in the midst of a historic presidential race etc., be able to carry a conversation on such topics. Remember that some of the world’s most famous and effective seductresses (Cleopatra, George Sand, Lou Salome, Martha Gellhorn, just to name a few) were smart as hell. Do you remember Miss Teen USA 2007? Don’t be her.
Once you are sexually intimate, strive to blow his mind in bed. For tips on how to do that, read my articles on how to blow his mind in bed. Never apologize for and/or be ashamed of your sexuality. Instead embrace all aspects of yourself and he will embrace them and you too.
