Long distance relationships are common these days, especially if one of you have to move to a different city or a country for study, work or some other reason. I was once in a long distance relationship for about 2 years. Those were the hard times in our relationship, but fortunately the relationship worked and I am now in a happy married life with my hubby; we made it work. It was a time of learning where we both learned so many things and now I would say that our relationship is taken to the next level, with much more maturity than before.
A long distance relationship fails for many because it is one critical type of relationship where you don’t see your partner face to face, you don’t have much opportunity to express what you feel correctly. I used to chat with my partner or go on a voice chat, both of these are not very effective ways of communication. With chat you type words, just words that don’t modulate your feelings. Sometimes misunderstanding occurs if you are busy or if you are in a different mood and not in sync with your partner. He/she may be in a bubbly mood while you may be under a pressure from your boss. Things don’t express themselves well at such situations with a typed chat or even with a voice chat. Since you can’t help, it is always
wise to find ways to deal with issues in such a relationship.
Confirm your commitment:
It is nice to repeatedly confirm your commitment in your relationship. Let your partner know that you are serious about this relationship and express it often in whatever ways possible.
Put extra effort in communication:
As I have already mentioned, communication will always be an issue in a long distance relationship, so you need to put a little extra effort to bridge the gap. Patience is a virtue, you always have to try not to jump into conclusions at the start of a conversation. Be patient and let your partner complete what he/she had to say. Think before you respond and in any case if there occurs a misunderstanding, you be the first to explain the cause of the misunderstanding and set things back on track. Communication could be troublesome or even tiresome in a long distance relationship, so be patient and wise.
Be honest:
Since your partner is not watching you, it is not that you can cheat him/her. Honesty is an utmost important factor that plays a crucial role in a long distance relationship. It is most likely that your partner may express words or deeds that imply that he/she doubts you when you tend to be dishonest. It is therefore your part to prove your honesty. I am not saying that you should report every move of yours to your partner, but given that the chances of possible cheating are high, it is always nice to be open.
Never always watch your partner:
This can be irritating and can cause heated up conversations leading to a break up. Even if you doubt your partner or if your partner is actually cheating on you, you should deal with it diplomatically rather than telling him/her that you are closely watching.
Try not to miss a session:
If you guys have scheduled chat or a video talking session, take all possible efforts to not to miss the session. Every possible communication is a thing that strengthens your relationship, given that you don’t have the chance to easily meet up. Failure to communicate can imply to your partner that you are not that interested in the
relationship.
Be optimistic:
Things with a long distance relationship are not the same as a normal relationship (I am not telling that long distance relationships are abnormal, though:)). So always be optimistic and have positive conversations and plans. It is a challenge to make such relationships work and you will feel proud if you succeed with it. Good luck!
