Tanya Haden

“That’s the easiest question ever,” she said. “Men just want sex!”

Survey says, “False!” Would you be surprised if I told you sex isn’t even in the top 5 things men really want from their partner? Believe it or not, it’s not sex that men want from their girlfriends and wives, it’s five other often overlooked and under-appreciated things that men crave, desire, want, and need to make their relationship “as good as it gets.” Each of these five things can *lead* to great sex, but none require it. Curious? Read on…

Okay, for all you women out there who are shaking their heads in disbelief and saying, “You’ve got to be kidding me, men think about sex all the time!” Let me clarify. You’re right. Men *think* about sex constantly. In fact, the latest research from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University shows that 54% of men think about sex several times a day (as compared with just 19% of women). But, today, I’m not talking about men *thinking* about sex. I’m talking about what men really want from their women, from their dates, girlfriends, and wives. The things that men want, which not only keep them faithful, but keep them coming back for more again and again!

Let’s discuss the top 5 things men desire from their significant other to make their own happily ever after. Women, when your man feels at his best, he will seek out every opportunity to spend more time with you and to give you more of what *you* desire. So, it’s in your best interest to give him what he wants (and it’s easier than you would ever believe), so you’ll get more of what you want. See how it works?

Let’s cut right to the chase shall we?

What Men Really Want:

1. Men Want To Be Adored

Tell him why you love him so much, often and clearly. Let him know that he is everything to you. Just as you may be his Princess, your man wants to know he’s your Prince.

2. Men Want To Be Consulted

There is no need to pretend you’re stupid, but when you find something your man is knowledgeable or passionate about, let him take the stage. Ask his opinion and let him feel he’s an active part of your decisions and choices.

3. Men Want To Be Trusted

Many of us have been hurt or lied to, but if your man isn’t the one who hurt you, trust him. Go out of your way to give him no reason to doubt you and your own trustworthiness. Let him know you feel safe and secure with him.

4. Men Want To Feel Sexy

Okay, so it might be an ego stroke, but men like to feel sexy or handsome or fit or fill-in-his-adjective here just as much as women do. You’d never believe how far a few “Do you know how sexy you are to me?” or “You look hot in that!” comments will go for you. They’re like relationship gold and always appreciated. Plus, he will start appreciating and complimenting you more too!

5. Men Want You To Be Their Friend

Many men don’t have the traditional social outlets that women do to discuss their emotions, dreams, and fears. By being his friend first, without judging, you allow him to be a real person with you which will build more trust and love (and even fiery romance) into your relationship. As a result, your entire relationship will become that much stronger.

So, remember this: The love of a woman can make or break a man. The woman who criticizes her man creates what she despises. The woman who encourages her man and gives him what he truly wants creates what she inspires. Give your man what he wants and then you will really know how to attract men. Plus, your life, your relationship, and your love will get better with every passing day. You will experience more loving, more caressing and more attention from your man than you ever imagined possible!

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