Step 1
Find your independence. There is nothing worse than a woman who once she finds a man, is clingier than a cat on a scratch post. Every one in a relationship should live by a 3 & 2 rule. The 3 & 2 rule is as simple as one party in the relationship having 3 things going on in their life (not literally 3 things, this is just figuratively speaking). Now once they add a second party into their life, they only add the 2 to their life. Now party number 1 has 5 things going on in their life. If the significant other is to leave the relationship, now you are back to your 3 things.. Confusing??? Basically speaking… your life shouldn’t change drastically just to fit the other person in. You have your life, they have theirs. With this being said, taking the man out of the relationship should not leave your previous life all out of order.. Independence means being able to survive without them. BREATHE!
Do not call more than once. If you call them,and they don’t answer… LEAVE A MESSAGE.. If no response in a suitable amount of time, then send a text. I’m positive he sees the missed call, can hear the message and can read the text. That lets them know that you are trying to contact them. Why make yourself look like a nag by calling more than once? You have done your part by calling so let them call you one their time.
Been a few days..?? Maybe it’s time for a new how to.
Have a life. Do not wait to see what he is doing to plan your day around it. He may wait until his last minute to tell you he is going out with the guys. Now you have wasted your day out with the girls by depending on him to keep you occupied. Guys don’t like to feel like they cannot go out with their friends for fear of you sulking around the house life-less without them.
NEVER bring up marriage and babies and all that jazz. That happens when it happens. Plus it takes out the suprise they are looking for when they propose if you have planned it down to the last drop for the last few years, months, weeks, hours… Who wants to start out a relationship thinking out the last step (marriage)?
Never talk about ex-boyfriends.. It is annoying, it is irrelevant and just stupid. Move on. They are exes for a reason.
Never bring up old arguements as if you didn’t get enough closure. That is the biggest nag move ever! It’s over. Guys forget the previous days arguements after they sleep. LOL Let it go.
Do not date a guy while they are in a relationship.. No matter how bad they claim their current relationship is. If it was that bad, they would have left. It only gives them the impression that you are naive and not strong enough to realize that there are plenty great single guys. They will know they have you wrapped around their finger…
Do not catch feelings if you initiate or have a one night stand. If he was just a piece of meat to you at first, that is ALL you will be to him.
Do not snoop. Do not look in there phones, email, voicemail or texts. You are obviously looking for something to make you mad. You are not looking for a text from a girl saying “I love how faithful you are. I wish you luck in your relationship.. blah blah”.. If you are looking for something bad, you will find it, or make it bad in your mind. Nothing more annoying. If he is cheating, it will come to the light. DOn’t waste fun time stressing yourserlf out and being a private investigator.
All in all.. Open your eyes.. Do not get run over. Do not get stupid in love because Love shouldn’t make you stupid.
