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Men don’t just WANT sex, they NEED sex.

Sex is as important to a man as food and sleep are. When you deny a man sex to get back at him or to teach him a lesson, you risk doing more harm than good and he will eventually seek it elsewhere, often with somebody he subconsciously knows will be particularly hurtful if you find out.

 Immediately after sex, a physiological reaction causes men become emotionally detached from their partner.

It’s also the reason men get tired, fall asleep, and don’t want to cuddle immediately following sex. Don’t take it personally. It’s just a chemical reaction and is unrelated to his attraction to you.

  The more you point out other attractive women to your man, the more he will be attracted to you.

While this may seem counterintuitive, what women don’t realize is that two things happen when they point out other attractive women to their man: First, he will be relieved that he can be free to appreciate attractive women in your presence, with your full knowledge and consent (although it may take several instances over time for him to come to this realization). Second, he will entertain the thought that you might be attracted to those women yourself, and will fantasize about having a threesome. As long as these fantasies remain a possibility in his mind, he will be happy. If he brings up his fantasies about your attraction to other women and hints about making them a reality (such as in a three-way relationship) you don’t have to feel pressured to do so; simply tell him no, while still hinting that it’s always a possibility.

Don’t make the mistake of asking your man if he finds somebody attractive who it would be socially unacceptable for him to be attracted to (e.g. a much older or younger woman), or somebody who would threaten your relationshipe (e.g. your sister).

6. When you ask a man what he is thinking, usually he will give you a vague answer to hide the fact that he is thinking about sex.

A man thinks about sex more often than even he realizes. If he is forced to confront or admit this, he will become incommunicative and will tend to shut down. If you feed him leading lines such as, “Honey, are you thinking about me again?” he will be glad for the opportunity to give you the obvious affirmative answer. Only you have to know it’s a game.

5. To keep a man attracted to you, play hard-to-get.

This may sound like standard relationship advice but in reality women misunderstand how to play hard-to-get. If a man asks you out and you try to avoid committing to a date, you will only frustrate him and cause him to guess why you’re avoiding him. Rather, you should play hard-to-get only while in his presence. This means accepting his sexual advances at a slower pace than he is expressing them (but never ignoring or rejecting them entirely), as well as making sexual advances towards him and then being slow to acknowledge his reciprocation. In other words, lead him along at your pace, not his; your pace should be slower than the one he wants.

Sex is an a job that men enjoy and strive to succeed at.

While men enjoy sex, they also consider it their duty to please a woman, and if they don’t succeed in doing so they consider it an unsuccessful encounter. That doesn’t mean your man feels he has to necessarily bring you to climax; if you’re not in the mood, simply tell him so, but be prepared to service him if you want to keep him happy.