Step 1
If you’re self-conscious about something, your mind will be consumed by this and so you can’t focus on sexual pleasure. So better get rid of what’s bothering you even before you engage in sex. For example, if you’re always insecure of how you smell ‘down there’ then make sure you always shower before engaging in sex. If you’re afraid you might accidentally pee while your G-spot is being stimulated, then go have a bathroom break before making love.
Know what turns you on. How can you guide him into what brings you pleasure if you yourself don’t know what does? This can actually be a fun time for you! To know what turns you on, try renting some porn videos and see how you react to what you see. Buy some dirty magazines and maybe even some sex toys. Just this all down to sexual education. Once you know what turns you on, experiment with him in bed!
Get this straight: Men are NOT mind readers. They cannot instinctively know what brings you the most pleasure. So if you already know what turns you on, don’t be afraid to tell him how best to pleasure you. For example, if he’s eating you out, tell him exactly how you like to be licked and where.
Learn to love yourself enough to believe him when he says that he just loves pleasuring you! Many women think that men are all selfish in bed, all after only their own sexual release. Well, if you find a man that actually puts your sexual pleasures first, lucky you! Instead of second guessing him, take his comments for what they are and be grateful!
