Step 1
Well first of all you have to let go of any inhibitions or reservations that you may have about sex. For example if you don’t like to perform a certain sexual act then don’t, but focus on doing the things that you do like, especially well. Be confident anytime you step to your mate and they will instantly get turned on by your aura.
Make time for sex/lovemaking/quickies, all that. If all you can get is ten minutes alone time with your hubby then use those ten minutes expressing your appreciation with kisses, hugs and maybe more. Save all the talking for when you have more time. It will not only help the relationship but will also help reduce stress throughout the day. So go ahead and be spontaneous. You better give that man some on the kitchen table or somebody else will.
Whenever possible put the children to bed say 30 minutes earlier than usual and then set-up the mood. Sometimes we forget that out environment also helps with stimulating our sexual senses. Dim the bathroom, light up some scented candles, run a bubble bath and put a plate of fresh fruits right next to the tub. Invite your mate to get naked and join you. Feed him fruits while you straddle him in the water and tell him how much you appreciate his being there for his family. Acknowledge his sexiness and intelligence. It’s okay to make your man feel wanted and loved ladies, that’s what keeps him from worrying about what the next chick has to offer.
Slide on some sexy lingerie from time to time and don’t be afraid to try risqué lingerie either. Men have all types of fantasies and if you know your man is into nurses then why not be a naughty nurse and take his temperature. Maintain eye contact and keep him interested by role playing along with your outfit. It will be as if he’s with another woman but you’re still the main attraction. Give him a lap dance or grab his hands and run them all over your body while you dance. Men love to touch and big girls don’t be shy. If he is with you then he obviously has no problem with your body. Confidence is the ultimate sexiness. Show off the curves that he love so much.
If you really want to be freaky in the room, throw on an erotic film and bring out the toys. What? You don’t have any toys? Then go buy some and if you’re too shy to walk in and do it try a few well known adult toy stores on-line where you can discreetly make erotic purchases from the comfort of your own home. Don’t just think of toys that stimulate you (those are fun too though) but rather find items that may be of interest to him as well and buy movies that you can both enjoy. Men love to see us get turned on by outside sources and what more fun then to see him getting pleasured by anew gadget. This can enhance alot in the bedroom because it allows you time to discover each others turn-on’ s and turn off’ s.
At the end of the day it’s all about loving and respecting each other. Try to remember what you did in bed when you first met and the excitement that you would bring to the bedroom. You have to figure out how to make that feeling last forever. I know it’s hard because there is so much more going on but just remember that if you have a good man and you stop taking care of him someone else is going to notice how good he is too. That’s the part you want to prevent from happening because he will start noticing back.
