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Make sex a fun activity rather than seeing it as a chore. Sex is the key to a healthy loving relationship and when the excitement of sex becomes mundane, it’s time to create fun in the bedroom again. Try being impulsive and pulling your partner close to you when he least expects it. Remember that feeling of passion you once had for each other when you couldn’t keep your hands off one another. Instead of scheduling sex because it needs to be done, make time to have fun with sex and enjoy each other. Sex should never be a task you have to finish. It should be something intimate that two partners share that deeply love one another. Try to see sex as an exciting activity rather than something you are forced to make yourself do to please your partner.
Try having sex in new places. Many couples get used to having sex in the bedroom. Rather than plan the same place for sex all the time, try some place different. Make out on the couch like teenagers and embrace your lover on the furniture. Lay a blanket on the floor and make love next to a table full of candles. Draw a bubble bath for the two of you and have sex in a lust full of bubbly fun. Go parking with your partner and make love in the back seat of the car. Choose a different place each time you have sex to keep it exciting. Make a game of finding new places to make love and you’ll soon find that your sex life is anything but dull.
Have more foreplay before sex. Taking the time to please each other before doing the deed is a much more enjoyable experience. When couples fall into a sexual rut, they tend to want to finish sex quickly so they can return to doing whatever they need to do…which is usually sleep. Make sex more exciting by taking the time to explore each other. Kiss each other’s bodies completely, give each other a massage, nibble your lover’s ear, or even kiss for more than a few minutes. Passion comes from having fun with sex and exploring your love for each other. Intimacy is not only the sex you have, but also the fun that leads to sex. Spend more time on foreplay before sex and you’ll find that your excitement for each other is larger than you expected.
Choose different times of the day to have sex. Many couples fall into the rut of having sex before bed. This leads to two tired people forcing themselves to be intimate. Not sexy. However, if you pick different times of the day to have sex such as the morning when you first wake up, mid afternoon, or even during lunch breaks, you’ll find that the sex you have is more exciting. Not only will you be more awake and alert for love making, but you’ll also have more energy to pay attention to each other’s needs. Having sex during the day can be exciting and make the relationship feel new again. Plus, you’ll not be able to hide yourselves in the dark and you’ll be able to see the sensuality of each other’s bodies.
Bring toys into the relationship for a more exciting sex life. It’s completely fine if you are not into using other devices for fun, but you may want to explore each other using sexual toys for adventure. This does not mean that you have to be kinky in anyway. Sensual toys can be as simple as love lotions, intimacy games, or colored condoms. If, however, you want to experiment more, feel free. It’s all up to how comfortable you and your partner are in playing around. You must be comfortable having sex in order to enjoy it so be sure to talk to your partner first before incorporating any toys into your intimate love making. Decide what you’d like to try and what you are comfortable with. Adding spice to your sex life can be easy with a few little trinkets and love toys, depending on what you desire.
Role play to add excitement to your sex life. Some couples enjoy playing different people when making love. This doesn’t mean that your partner is desiring someone else. All role playing does is allows two lovers to enjoy a fantasy world during sex. Again, this is all decided upon how comfortable you are with trying new things. Be sure to talk to your partner first before choosing to role play. Make sure that you both are comfortable trying new things in your sex life and how much you’re willing to do. You may just find that you both enjoy being different people during sex and it adds passion to your love making. Find out what your partner likes and dislikes and share your desires with him as well. You’ll find sex to be much more exciting if both you and your partner are sharing a common ground.
Add more romance to your sex life to spice it up. Try playing soft music, lighting candles, or wearing sexy lingerie to add excitement to your sex life. Ask your partner to make love slower, kiss softer, and touch you more gently to try new things in your sex life. Adding romance can get you quickly into the mood and make a more passionate night together. If romance is not normally your thing, try incorporating more passion and create the urgency to have each other like you once did when you first met. Remember what it feels like to desperately want your partner. Behave that way again in your sex life and ask your partner to do the things he did before that you enjoyed. Ask your partner to tell you the things he desires. Adding passion and romance to your love making can increase the excitement of sex in amazing ways.
