Focus solely on your partner at least once a day. Search for ways to really connect with one another within the confines of your daily schedule. Try sharing a cuddle in bed before your day begins, or exchanging shoulder massages or back rubs when you return home in the evening. Sometimes the simplest sincere gestures have the greatest positive impact.
Be considerate of your partner. What would she truly enjoy? Think of how you can show love and appreciation through thoughtful actions. Whether you surprise your partner with breakfast in bed or a longed-for CD, he or she is bound to feel loved. Random acts of kindness help love to flourish.
Try something different during your time together. Be creative when you plan your dates. Variety will help you rediscover one another. This can be as simple as getting together at a different location or time, or as adventurous as trying a new activity that you’ve never done before as a couple. If you always visit the same French or Italian restaurant, for example, try Greek cuisine next time. If you always go jogging, try rollerblading. If you usually have dinner out every Friday night, meet for a lunch date on Tuesday afternoon.
Keep yourself well informed in order to stay interesting. When conversation begins to wane, you will always have something of substance to say if you keep up with the topics of the day. Do your research. Scan newspapers, magazines and blogs for articles of merit. Read books and film reviews. Most importantly, be ready to share what you’ve learned and be willing to hear your partner’s opinions. Stimulating conversation can work wonders to spice up a relationship.
Hug and kiss your partner … every day. Physical displays of affection keep love alive by rekindling romantic feelings. Kiss in the hallway, embrace while making breakfast or make out like teenagers on the sofa after the kids have gone to bed. The more you kiss each other, the more you will want to, and the more you will want to be together. Remember to tell your partner that you love him often.