DO NOT JUMP INTO BED TOO QUICKLY WITH THE PERSON!
This first step is probably the most important step! You obviously need to hang out with the person and get to know him before you actually have sex with him. Find out about his past sexual relationships and how he treated his ex’s. Also find out whose fault it was for the break ups, if he blames all his ex’s and never takes responsibility for anything that took place in the break ups then he is not a guy you want in your panties anyway. This more than likely shows that he does not think he can ever do any wrong and will obviously not work to correct his faults, and this applies in the sack.
Remember, every situation is a depiction of the persons character so you can use any one situation to see what the person is like overall!
IS HE A GOOD LISTENER?!
There is a major difference between hearing what someone has to say and truly listening to what they are saying. Observe the extent to which your guy listens to you and other people he is talking to. If all he does is talk and not give you or the other party a chance to express themselves without first cutting them off then he is not a good listener. Also if he is talking to you or someone else and he thinks his point is the only valid one without even giving consideration to the point(s) that you or someone else is trying to make then he is not a good listener. Someone who thinks they are always right about everything cannot truly listen to you because they are narrow minded, and they are not willing to learn anything new or take in a new perspective. SO IF THIS GUY IS NOT TRULY LISTENING TO ANYTHING ANYONE HAS TO SAY WITH AN OPEN MIND, WHY WOULD HE LISTEN TO THE NEEDS AND WANTS OF YOUR BODY LEADING YOU TO THAT CLIMATIC SENSATION!
IS HE BOASTFUL…
guys who love to boast about the size of their organs or who loves to talk about what they will to you in bed to make you have a toe clenching orgasm through sex or oral sex is nothing short of an illusion. If you are good at something, you do not need to talk about it. People who love to boast about what they can do, can’t actually do anything. Beware because these guys might be building up your expectations so much that when it comes down to it, you are left disappointed and frustrated. Chances are this boaster just want to have sex with you and don’t care about you, he is probably just hyping you up so he can get you in bed.
Also a guy who talks about the size (i.e. the largeness) of his member certainly does not know what it takes to make a woman shiver in excitement. Because, if he thinks that all it takes to make a woman orgasm is a big cock, then he needs to go back to elementary school. Guys with this kind of mentality are also usually the ones who believe that he has to make you scream in agony so he can feel like he is doing a good job. Do you want to be wincing from pain after the intercourse? I think not.
IF HE CAN’T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER…
This is a very tricky one, but I must get into it. There is a difference between someone being persistent and someone that can’t take ‘No’ for an answer. In my opinion neither is good. A woman knows who she wants to be with and if a woman says ‘No” then he should just move on. I have two problems with a guy who can’t take No for an answer:
1. They are usually very manipulative and will tell you anything you want to hear just to get you into bed. I mean nothing is wrong with this if the woman wants the same thing and are not deceived about the guys feelings for her. In this way she knows exactly what to expect and what she is getting into.
2. Psychologists often warns us about guys who can’t take “no” for an answer as this is the classic behavior trait of a rapist. So be careful ladies!
Also, have you ever been with a guy who all they could ever seem to do was divert the conversation toward talking about sex. And, every time you are around him he is kissing you, touching you etc. and even when you tell him to stop he is trying to do little things to turn you on sexually? Well, obviously all he wants is sex and he does not care about what you want. This kind of guy is a manipulator, he knows that you do not want to have sex with him but he is trying to push you to the breaking point (pressuring you even) to have sex with him. Obviously, this sexual experience will not only be a bad one, but it will leave you guilty with a lot of regrets. Even though this guy might not forced you to have sex with him, he manipulated you and in my opinion that is no different from rape.
IF YOU NOTICE ANY SELFISH TRAITS IN HIM…
If your guy seem selfish in anyway possible then he is selfish in bed as well. People don’t generally display a behavior trait in one type of situation alone. Chances are if they display that behavior trait in one situation, that is who they truly are. I know we don’t like to judge, but it is okay to judge someone based on their actions!
IS HE A TERRIBLE KISSER?
Ok this one is not always 100% true. But, it is a good indication when you take other things into consideration. SOMETIMES, if your guy is a bad kisser then he is bad in bed. Just imagine this, the way that a guy kisses you on the mouth is the same way he will eat your ****. If he is a rough kisser who is all over the place slobbering all over your mouth and shoving his tongue down your throat then that is how he is going to eat you out.
But, if he is gentle, smelling your sweet tantalizing breath, feeling your warm breath against his lips, kissing you gently, massaging your scalp, your neck, your arms and back while he is kissing you. Then you know this is a guy who does not only knows what he is doing, but what he should be doing to make you happy as well. Also if he looks at you trying to figure out if you like what he is doing or not, and if he ask if you would like to go further either verbally or with his eye or actions, then this is a guy who will most likely be good in bed. But, if he turns out not to be, teach him as I am sure that this type of guy will be very much willing to learn!
IF HE DRINKS A LOT OR TAKES DRUGS OR HAVE A POOR DIET…
You do not have to be a jock, or buff and ripped to be healthy. But, if a guy has a terrible diet and does not take care for his health then chances are he does not have the energy to satisfy a woman.
Also if he drinks a lot or takes drugs, then he might not be able to last that long!
HIS AMOUNT OF EX’S
LOL I don’t care what ANYONE has to say but I will take the risk in saying that this is 100% true in all cases I have experience or people I know have experienced.
If a guy claims to be a prowess at what he does in bed and boast about the number of women he has been with, then he is BBBAAAADDDDD in bed. First of all, a lot of men thinks that women will be impressed if he tells her that he has been with over 20 women. This is a major misconception. But, some women (especially younger women who tend to be a bit more neive) tend to think that the more sex partner a man has had, the better he is in bed. This is so not true, because all he is interested in is adding to the statistic and not the quality of sex he has with different sex partners. Think about it logically, if he claims to have had over 50 sex partners, then something must be wrong with him for him to be moving from one woman to another. And in this case, he is not able to learn what a woman truly wants because he does not stick around long enough to find out!
