Whether you’re into creative artists or uber-preppy bankers, there’s something to be said for trying something new.
First, figure out if your specific type is a problem: “Think about if there have been any consistent patterns in your love life that aren’t working,” Steinberg says. She offered the example of a client of hers who felt like she was never number one in a guy’s life. After Steinberg walked her through her dating history, the client realized she was attracted to workaholic types. “I pointed out that if she was always trying to make it work with very educated, extremely ambitious people, she was always going to feel like she wasn’t their top priority.” So, think about it: do you routinely find yourself playing out the same drama in one relationship after another? It may be because you’re too stuck on your type.