The thrill of chase-we’ve all been there at one point. He’s intoxicating, infuriating, and more than anything seems impossible to get. He becomes your drug. You pursue him, forgetting how calm, cool, and collected you normally are: You’re driving yourself crazy. Why do women with so much to offer torture themselves with men who will not give back? We asked relationship guru Eric Charles, founder of A New Mode, to break it down once and for all.
Marie Claire: Chasing men is more than a behavioral pattern – it’s a mindset. Why do so many smart, successful women pursue men they know don’t want the same things?
Eric Charles: Let’s zoom out and look at society as a whole: “Chasers” believe happiness lies somewhere in the future – the payoff for getting whatever circumstance or person they’re chasing. Once they decide on a fantasy, they hold their breath until they get it. Read More