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Pay attention to the likes and (sometimes more important) the dislikes of your partner. Learning likes and dislikes goes further than just in bed. Even when you are intentionally stepping outside of normal bedside manner, don’t go outside of what you know for sure someone would accept or is comfortable with (unless they tell you to).
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Be open to criticism and ask for input. Truth is, you don’t know what your partner likes until you ask, or explore and find out yourself. Try not to get upset with the things you may learn as they are only telling you because they trust and love you.
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Set the tone of the session. Preparing is a good way to set the tone, besides lights and music or whatever takes your fancy, you may also do it with body language. Body language can often be interpreted better than spoken word so use your body in a way that entices them, no matter how that may be.
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Incorporate as many of the five senses as possible. Too many times we focus on touch when a deeply moving experience involves more. Explore and create, as there is a world of possibilities waiting for you to discover with your lover.
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Think quality and quantity. In most cases of being a good lover, there is never too much of a good thing, but don’t make the mistake of changing so much so often that you change what you lover loved about you originally.
