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1) Hang out with each other. One of the biggest relationship issues that can lead to divorce is, oddly enough, not spending enough time — quality time — together. Do stuff you guys enjoy: Watch some silly movies, laugh together, and bond. It’s so easy to spend time just sitting quietly together but alone, so make sure that really hanging out with each other at least once a week is at the top of your list.

2) Confront those  skeletons in your closet. So you hate the way he snores.  He spends too much time working. Fine — those are all fair things to dislike in a partner (especially over time). So carefully bring them up, don’t just sweep them under the rug and pretend they don’t exist. To have a good marriage, communication has to be open and honest, or it leads to resentments.

3) Let some things go. Sure, there are things you’re not going to be able to resolve. You can’t, for example, make someone stop snoring just by saying it drives you up a wall. If the issue is older than six months, you’re going to have to start letting go.

4) Dance in the kitchen in your socks at least once a week. Even if you don’t want to. Even if you don’t dance. Even if there’s no music. Just dance. Five minutes once a week. Trust me on this one. Show your partner that you can have some fun.

5) Keep the spark alive. Doesn’t matter how you do it. If it’s edible undies and whipped cream or date night or movie night — whatever. Just make sure to schedule (if you have to) some time to be with one another and do something that rekindles the spark every single week.