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Step 1

     DEVELOP A KNACK FOR EYE CONTACT. Choose a man that you want to meet. Focus on him until you get his attention. Do not break eye contact until he does. You may find this difficult at first, but it will get easier with practice. While he’s looking at you, smile. If he doesn’t approach you after that, he’s not interested. Move on to someone else.

  • Step 2

    USE YOUR SMILE. It is much easier to approach someone who is smiling than someone who is not. Learn to smile until your cheeks fall off. It connotes openness, friendliness and warmth. Of course, smiling will often get you the attention of men you are not interested in, so learn to reject with a smile as well. It is easier on the ego when someone says with a smile, “Thank you, but I’m not interested.” A rejection with attitude and no smile offends. You don’t want to offend people, you just want them to go away. Be mindful that men often watch a woman for a while before they approach her. If you are seen being rude, they may check you off their list even before you get on it.

  • Step 3

    INTRODUCE YOURSELF. The easiest way to meet people is also the hardest. Simply introduce yourself to the people around you. When you’re in a crowd of strangers, turn to the person on either side of you, hold out your hand and say, “Hi, my name is…” It’s so simple, yet many people find it difficult to do. Practice this several times a night. You don’t need to linger. Just introduce yourself, learn who the person is, have a brief conversation, and move on. You’ll be surprised how friendly people can be once you make the overture. And of course, the more people you meet, the more opportunities you have to meet the right man.

  • Step 4

    MAKE INTERESTING CONVERSATION. You need to be able to talk to people, so have something interesting to say. Gather in the back of your mind little bits of fascinating information to share with others, or ask questions that will spark interesting conversation. Scour newspapers, magazines, or the internet for amusing facts. Don’t leave home for a social event without at least one item of interest in mind. Of course, if you are shy and don’t like being center stage, you can always get people to talk about themselves. For example, “What’s the best place you’ve ever been to?” or “What do you like to do when you’re not working?” If making conversation is difficult for you, learn how. There are plenty of books on the subject.

  • Step 5

    ASK HIM TO DANCE. Many men feel self conscious when dancing. They don’t like to look foolish or silly. But men also don’t like to turn down an attractive woman. Look for a man that you’d like to meet. Go up to him, introduce yourself, and ask him to dance. If he turns you down say, “If you change your mind, my name is…..” and leave if he doesn’t keep the conversation going. You don’t want to seem desperate. If he says “yes” to your request to dance, get out on the dance floor. But once it’s over, thank him, and go back to your friends. If he’s interested in pursuing you, he’ll follow you back to your table. Just remember that your job is to give him the opening and then retreat. It’s his job to pursue.

  • Step 6

    ASK HIM OUT FOR COFFEE. If never hurts to say to someone you want to get to know, “We should go for coffee sometime.” The deliberate nature of the open ended “sometime” leaves it up to him to pursue you if he’s interested. But it also signals that you are interested. Some men are afraid to ask a woman out because they fear rejection. This at least gives him the indication that it is okay to approach you with an invitation.