Step1Determine your feelings for the person by thinking about them completely and strongly. Think about all of the aspects of this person that make you close to them.
Step 2Do you feel comfort around this person? When a person is in love they will feel completely comfortable around their mate. If nervousness still remains, you may be feeling lust instead. If you’re worried about your partner judging you and feel a desire to impress them constantly, you’re still quite infatuated with them, rather than in love.
Step 3Is it all about looks really? If you can’t stop thinking about how attractive your mate is and can’t focus on anything else, it’s definitely lust.
Step 4Think about the future and where you’ll be in fifty years. If you see your partner with you, you may be feeling bits of love. Love is lasting.
Step 5Does friendship come before anything else? You should be friends with your partner. If you see them only as a significant other, you may want to rethink your feelings of love.
Step 6Think about the amount of time you’ve been with them. Though it is not always the case, time in a relationship plays a key role to what love actually is. If you’ve been with them for a short amount of time, you may still be feeling new feelings of infatuation.
Step 7Lust equals a strong sexual desire. If you find yourself only fascinated with the sexual aspect of your relationship and lack communication, you’re more than likely feeling lust.
Step 8Do you grow jealous often? Jealousy plays no role in a relationship built on love and trust.
Step 9Think about the next steps of your relationship. Whether it be moving in together or getting married, think about what feelings arise when the topic is brought to mind. If you are afraid, you may not be feeling love.
