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Understand men. You must understand that most men are decent creatures who want to be faithful to the woman they love. Unless they have a blatant mental or personality disorder
, men will not cheat unless they feel they have no other choice. They need love and affection, just like us! How do you expect a man to be faithful to you if you have such a low opinion of them? Think about it. Most men are not “selfish”, “pigs”, or any other negative generalization you hear about them. They are human beings- treat them humanely!
Sex. Sex is fundamentally important to your relationship. Not only is it a great physical release, but sex is a powerful way men express and receive love and affection. They need sex to feel connected to you. You hold tremendous power here, so use it kindly and wisely. Make sure you have an active sex life. Have sex at least once a day, if you’re not sick or comatose. Make it a priority. Nothing is more important than bonding with your man. NEVER withhold sex as a punishment. This is cruel and the surest way to drive him into the arms of another woman. Also, experiment. Try new positions and be open to what he wants to do. Make sex exciting. Lose your sexual inhibitions and make him feel like a man!
Affection and appreciation. Men need affection to feel loved. Be physically and verbally affectionate as much as possible. Kiss him, hug him, stroke his face, massage him, you get the idea. Do this often. Also, appreciate him as a man and everything he does for you-even the minor stuff, like the foot rub he gave you or the fact that he remembered the milk on the way home. Don’t criticize him unnecessarily. How would you feel if he criticized you nonstop? Compliment him. You’re in a relationship with him because you’re crazy about him and adore him, right? Tell him! Tell him how handsome, sexy, intelligent, and funny he is. He’s yours, so let him know!
Respect him. Really watch yourself on this one, because disrespect can be subtle at times. Do you ever find yourself looking at him condescendingly or unkindly? Change it immediately. Look at your man with love and adoration and nothing else. Listen intently to him when he speaks, even if it’s a subject that you don’t particularly care for. Laugh at his jokes, even if you’ve heard them so many times you can recite them backwards in Somali. Don’t ever treat him as a child. He is a full grown man, so respect his decisions and opinions. Love and respect go hand in hand. Don’t come to him with a litany of complaints. If you would like him to do something for you, ask once (nicely!) and after that, LET IT GO. If it’s really that important to you, do it yourself.
Stay in shape. Men are very visual creatures. They love looking at beautiful women. Put effort into your appearance. It’s important to him that you care enough about yourself to stay in shape. Buy a gym membership, use your home gym, buy exercise videos-do whatever it takes to get into shape and stay that way. It is ridiculous and unrealistic to expect yourself to look like Heidi Klum, but put in some effort here girls. I personally have found that one hour of cardio a day is the quickest way to lose weight, combined with a sensible diet. Not only is being out of shape unhealthy for your relationship, it’s unhealthy for you! While on this subject, I also highly recommend getting your hair and nails done on a regular basis. Treat yourself to the occasional massage and facial, and remember to dress nicely! Dress up for him! Men like to see women in stylish, sexy (but not slutty) clothing in bright colors. So why not strive to please them?
Do not be insecure or jealous. There is no quicker way to drive a man away from you then to engage in jealous, insecure behaviors. Let him do what he wants to do, when he wants to do it. If you are jealous or suspicious of him, why on earth are you in a relationship with him? So, if he wants to have his “guy time”, likes his Playboy, or is friends with an old girlfriend, let it go! Develop your own life and you won’t worry so much about his.
Get your own life. Men want a woman who can stimulate them intellectually as well as emotionally and sexually. He will appreciate you more if you have interesting things to talk about with him, not just unpaid bills and housework. Read the newspaper every morning and keep up with current events and business. Also, if you don’t have a hobby you’re passionate about, get one! Take up painting, sailing, writing, etc. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you’re interested in it. In short, be an interesting person to make conversation with.
Take an interest in his hobbies. He needs you to be his main recreational companion-his buddy. There’s a misconception out there that men like to be left alone with the guys to pursue their interests. Nothing could be further from the truth. Ideally, you should be his best friend and be able to enjoy pastimes together. So, if he likes football and you don’t know the first thing about the game, ask him to explain it to you. Go to a game with him. You get the idea. Whatever your man finds interesting is worth learning about. Remember the couple that plays together, stays together.
