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Don’t only talk about sex in the bedroom. This can lead to serious emotional complications for both partners. If one or the other partner voices dissatisfaction with their love-making – feelings can be hurt. This is especially true if it comes up during a post-coital conversation. Try to make sex an topic of conversation outside of the bedroom, as well as in it.
Be honest with each other. Quit faking orgasms to spare your partner’s feelings. Work with them to assure an enjoyable experience for you both. A great example is when a person, during the act, asks their partner “do you like that?”. If the answers no, tell them so. But also be willing to show them what you do like.
Try stepping outside your comfort zone, and own with your partner that you are uncomfortable. If you’ve never been to an adult bookstore or sex-shop – check it out. Make it a part of your next date. If you’re embarrassed by the whole deal – share those feelings with your partner – you may not be the only one. This openness concerning your embarrassment can lead to a much greater level of openness concerning sex in general.
Read a sex book with your partner. Share your thoughts and feelings about what you are seeing and hearing. This may provoke a discussion about certain topics that may be difficult to bring up otherwise.
Discuss your expectations with your partner, and encourage them to do likewise. If there is no open communication concerning sexual matters, invariably someone – if not both people – in the relationship may develop frustrations and resentments that could have otherwise been avoided.
Once a level of openness has been achieved concerning sexual issues, don’t let it die. Nurture is as you would a pet. It may take concerted, prolonged effort on both partner’s parts in order to maintain an open dialogue about sex.
